If you always thought that it’s only the physical abuse that constitutes domestic violence, you are highly mistaken. Domestic violence is all about controlling someone’s emotions and mind as much as causing harm to their body. Abuses inflict confusion and fear, which in turn affect your mind’s ability to think clearly and make the right conclusions. That’s the reason most of the times, the victim is unable to judge whether it’s really an abuse or just plain rational anger. The abuse doesn’t creep in directly. It starts with isolation. Once you are isolated either emotionally or physically, its then when the actual trauma kicks in. Here is a list of actions that are explicitly regarded as domestic violence abuse either mentally or physically.
1. You are Being Bullied or Threatened by your Partner
If he or she constantly criticizes you, blames you for their behaviour, accuses you of having an affair, commands you to look or behave in a certain way, threatens to kill you or someone close to you, throws things, breaks household objects, punches the walls, yells at you or demeans you in any manner, you are certainly being abused.
2. Your Partner Controls Money or Other Private Belongings
Keeping cash and credit cards away, putting you up on an allowance, making you explain every dollar spent, controlling your freedom to work, stealing or demanding money from you or restricting finances for food and clothes is also considered as domestic mental violence.
3. You’re Asked to Cut Off from your Family
If you’re being watched or followed everywhere or ‘permission’ must be obtained before going to see your family and friends, you are allowing yourself to be a victim of domestic violence. There have also been cases where the accused have insulted or embarrassed the victim to a level where they began avoiding meeting loved ones.
4. Your Partner Attacks You
In case your partner abandons you in unknown places, attacks you with or without weapons, keeps you from eating, sleeping or getting medical care, locks you in or out of the house, punches, pushes, bites, kicks or pull hair, he is an assaulter and you need to report domestic violence immediately.
5. Your Partner Sexually Assaults You
Forcing to have sex, making you feel like you owe them sex, trying to give you an STD or avoiding birth control methods also sums up as domestic violence.
How to Know if Someone Else is a Victim of Domestic Violence?
Check for the following signs:
- Excuse for frequent injurie
- Negative change in personality like low self-esteem.
- Constantly checking in by their partner
- Being money-less all the time.
- Overly worried or fearful of their partner
- Wearing absurd clothes like high neck and full sleeves even in normal weather to avoid showing bruises.
- Skipping school or office for no particular reason.
If you are afraid of your partner, it’s a red flag. Being scared to say something, bringing up certain topics or refusing sex means that you are vulnerable to abuse. Remember, there is no place for fear in a healthy relationship.